If God Loves Me, Then Why Does He Wait?

As our daughter nears fifteen, she’s beginning to dream about driving and college and all those rights of passage that signify adulthood. (She’s already planned the furnishings for her college dorm room … and her future house, career, basically, the next twenty years of her life.)

She thinks she’s so ready, but often, my husband and I must hold her back. Not because we don’t love her, but instead, because we do. We know the vital steps that must occur, the growth that needs to take place, the dangers that await if we allow too many privileges and responsibilities before the proper time. We know there’s imperative character traits, like perseverance, inner grit, determination, that must be developed.

I believe God is the same way. He has an omniscient view of our lives. He sees our past, present, and future. He knows every obstacle we’ll face, every blessing that’ll come our way. Most importantly, He sees us not as we are, but as He plans to make us–a beautiful masterpiece ready to do His will.

Today, Fay Lamb, author of Because of Me, looks at disappointments through God’s sovereignty and loving Father’s heart. She reminds us, no matter what comes our way, God wants us to trust and obey. Trust His love, His goodness, His tender care.

God Loves Me More Than That by Fay Lamb

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD,

thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11

Life verses—they abound, and Jeremiah 29:11 is among the most quoted. As an author who feels that God has called me to write, I cling to verses such as this. For me, they prove that God’s love is a blanket of warmth against the coldness of a sometimes harsh reality.

The writer’s life is like a rollercoaster with moments of high exhilaration and days of deep despair. Times when all is right with the world, and then there are those occasions when a writer wants to crawl into a cave and hide from the very world where before all was bright and sunny.

God says in Jeremiah 29:11 that He knows the thoughts He has toward me. He declares those thoughts are kind and not evil, and He wants to give me a future of hope. When I meditate on this verse, I imagine this is God’s way of saying, “Daughter, I have a plan for you. Trust and obey.”

Often I hold my hand out to God, asking Him to lead me toward a writing contract, an encounter with someone, even an idea to build a story. Like a child, I want my prayers answered easily and immediately.

But God loves me more than that.

I do not like rejection, but is it truly rejection when God has designed the plan and I am walking in obedience to Him? No, it’s a step. I must trust God and move forward even when the path is rough and harrowing.

I do not like to be unsettled in my spirit, yet criticism has a way of doing that. Truth given in love, however, is one of a writer’s most valuable assets. The sting at first may leave me uncomfortable, but when I come to terms with it and take the suggested steps to improve my writing, my spirit is filled with the peace that God promises.

When I start out on a trip, I am the one who likes to know every stop along the way. Trust and obey means that I trust God when he doesn’t tell me each leg of my journey. My life as an author may take unexpected turns.

I have purposed in my heart to remain content with any direction God purposes in my writing career. In fact, I’ll be satisfied on whatever road He places me. My future hopes rest in Him and not in my desires, and God has promised a future better than any I can dream.


Fay Lamb works as an acquisition/copyeditor for Pelican Book Group (White Rose Publishing and Harbourlight Books), offers her services as a freelance editor, and is an author of Christian romance and romantic suspense. Her emotionally charged stories remind the reader that God is always in the details. Because of Me, her debut romantic suspense novel will be released on February 3, 2012, by Treble Heart Books/Mountainview Publishing.

Fay has a passion for working with and encouraging fellow writers. As a member of American Christian Fiction Writers (ACFW), she co-moderates the large Scribes’ Critique Group and manages the smaller Scribes’ critique groups. For her efforts, she was the recipient of the ACFW Members Service Award in 2010.

In 2012, Fay was also elected to serve as secretary on ACFW’s Operating Board.

Fay and her husband, Marc, reside in Titusville, Florida, where multi-generations of their families have lived. The legacy continues with their two married sons and five grandchildren.

Because of Me:

Issie Putnam’s life took a detour the night she was raped at gunpoint in front of her fiancé, Michael Hayes. Instead of marrying Michael, a promising young investigative reporter, Michael, along with the man who attacked her, and the man who held the gun on Michael, are imprisoned for conspiracy to assassinate the local district attorney—a crime Michael was trying to expose but had no intention of committing. Issie’s name is ruined, she lost her perfectly-planned future, but she gained Cole, her son—born of that rape.

On the eve of her attacker’s parole, Michael, already released from prison, follows through on his plan to return to the small town of Amazing Grace and protect Issie from the madman who promised to seek revenge. There, he meets Issie’s seven-year-old son for the first time.

Can Michael learn to love the child Issie holds so close to her heart? Will Michael be able to protect the woman he loves from the man who will stop at nothing to destroy them all?

Purchase the book at Amazon.

Let’s talk about this!

Join us at Living by Grace as we talk about our disappointments, hopes, and dreams and try to view them through our Father’s eyes. How does trusting in God’s love for you, His plan for you, His continual care, help you persevere? If you’re a parent, how has your experience as a parent changed your understanding of God? Has there been a time when you’ve been able to look back on a delay or detour that, although painful at the time, turned out to be a blessing?


  1. These are great thoughts. I have learned that through the waiting, God has other things for me to focus on and other lessons to learn. And then, in HIs perfect time, He will open the doors that He wants opened for me. It’s hard, especially when it’s something we want so badly, but learning to trust Him in the process is so worth it!

  2. Great post, Jennifer. Great insights, Fay. I think about this, often. This slowness of God. It seems that it’s only after the matter is settled (usually WAY longer than the time it would have taken if we were in control), that we can look back and see just how high His thoughts are above our thoughts, and His ways above our ways. We maybe saw 3 things that needed to be done. But He saw 30, or 300. And all of them mattered.

    I guess the hope is, we experience this enough times, and we start to relax a little with the current matter, applying faith in Him, His love and character, not so much in the plan, which makes little sense to us right now.

    Dan Walsh

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Dan. And you are so right about understanding when we look back. And I love your reminder that we often don’t realize all that must take place before His final plan is ready to unfold.

    2. Dan: What a great reminder! Yes, God sees all, and when we move without His guidance, how can we expect to receive His full blessing? Often we see road blocks where God is simply offering a detour for a better route for our lives.

    3. Dan, thank you. I love the thought that while we see so little of what our needs are, God sees the entire picture. Why do we ever get restless and move forward without him?

      1. Just reread all of this and tears come to my eyes as I realize that I have been trying to run the show again. Dan, Fay, and Jennifer, you are all reminding me to Let Go and Let God…His reasons are not my reasons. Thanks for sharing these thoughts.

      2. Oh, Marilyn, that, I believe, is the hardest part about being human–wanting to take the reigns. I find myself doing that, often without even realizing. Because I have such a strong “me”, I often pray that God will override that, that He will not let me get in the way of His will and what He longs to do in my life. Sadly, I have to pray this almost daily, I’m so strong-willed. 🙂 But I pray that He takes away my will and replaces it with His will, that He closes whatever doors are not of Him, and that He enables me to offer my body, mind, time, words, as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to Him.

        Blessings, my friend!

  3. Great post, Fay! I just like to remember that Jeremiah wrote that verse to the exiles, who had just been carted off to captivity! God wasn’t speaking to people in their happy place, but to those whose entire world had fallen apart. Even the exile was God’s good thought and God’s plan to prosper them. That definitely provides perspective.

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