If you’ve been following my blog long, you know I adore my husband. For so very many reasons! But early in my marriage, I often missed out on his dragon-slaying heroics, not because they weren’t there, but rather, because I was far too focused on the burps and hiccups and casually-tossed dirty laundry. Our marriage changed dramatically when I surrendered fully–my mind, my thoughts, my perceptions–to Christ and began to view my husband through His eyes. (I shared a bit of this in a recent Crosswalk.com article. You can read it here.) Once I began to voice all those accolades God sparked within my heart, a gloriously beautiful and tender thing occurred–those dragon-slaying heroics became more frequent as my husband steadily stepped into his God-given role of provider, leader, and protector.
Today a sweet friend, author of At the Edge of a Dark Forest,(a book I’m reading now and LOVE!!!) Connie Almony, talks about her dragon slayer and the impact each of us have on that hidden hero lurking within each of our spouses. She’s also giving away a copy of her novel, At the Edge of a Dark Forest, to one of you, randomly chosen from the comments left on this post. 🙂
Does Your Man Slay Dragons For You by Connie Almony
Whenever I begin to write a story it always starts as a romance. Of course, my characters take off and do things I’d never have expected when I first “birthed” them (they’re like children that way). But in the beginning, it’s always JUST a romance. With this in mind, I know there will need to be a defining moment where the man must slay a dragon (of some sort) for his lady.
You may think this idea is sexist and old fashioned. “Why can’t the woman slay a dragon for him?” You ask.
Well that’s fine and dandy, and most of my heroines do some slaying too, but if I’m going to fall in love with the man (which is unnecessary for me with the ladies I write) he will need to be willing to take a personal risk to get the heroine what she needs.
In my novella, At the Edge of a Dark Forest, my female protagonist, Carly, explains this idea to her counterpart, Cole, when he teases her about her penchant for reading the genre. He, being a double amputee, wonders if he could measure up as a dragon slayer.
Because dragons come in many forms.
Early in my marriage, I’d scheduled one of those free offers to check our heating and air conditioning to clear it for winter service. FREE, I thought, who could pass up FREE? I was a little naïve back then. Of course, after the check, the technician handed me a very long list of repairs we could have done at a “reduced” price by their company if I signed NOW. I was warned, if not done soon, the whole unit would blow, costing me thousands of dollars in the end. My heart pounded. What should I do? I don’t want to miss this opportunity, and I didn’t want to risk the larger expenditure that would surely come.
I called my husband as the technician huffed loudly and tapped his toe in front of me. I could hear the comforting smile in my husband’s voice as he asked to speak to the man. I handed him the phone. They chatted. A few minutes later, the man gave me back the phone and packed his things as my husband told me not to worry. He’d consult a friend who could advise us and potentially do the work for much less than this company. He did, costing a third of what I’d been quoted.
I don’t know why this seemed a big deal to me, but I felt like a dragon had been slayed that day. A dragon in the shape of a scam-artist who’d infiltrated my home and planned to drain me of my life’s blood … or at least some cash. It gave me great peace to know my husband knew how to interrogate this man to get to the truth, to call on resources, and to ensure his family’s home was properly cared for.
My husband slays dragons every day in his office, where he manages employees, ensures goals are met and a salary is gained to feed his family. He is my hero. My knight in shining armor. He is also the biggest encourager in my writing. I am blessed.
I once listened to a woman complain that her husband never thanked her for the work she did in the home. I hear ya lady—it can be a thankless job. But I was stopped cold when she recounted how he asked of her, “When have you thanked me for going to my job every day?”
I wondered, “Had I ever thanked my husband for his provision?” I hadn’t. I try to rectify that now … To thank him for the work he does and most of all delaying HIS dream of being a writer (for which he is very gifted) to provide for his family so I can pursue MY dreams.
Thank you, Rick Almony, for slaying all those dragons!
Have you thanked your dragon-slayer today?
Cole Harrison, a war veteran, wears his disfigurement like a barrier to those who might love him, shielding them from the ugliness inside. He agrees to try and potentially invest in a prototype prosthetic with the goal of saving a hopeless man’s dreams.
Carly Rose contracts to live with Cole and train him to use his new limbs, only to discover the darkness that wars against the man he could become.
At the Edge of a Dark Forest is a modern-day retelling of Beauty and the Beast. Only it is not her love that will make him whole.
Connie Almony is trained as a mental health therapist and likes to mix a little fun with the serious stuff of life. She was a 2012 semi-finalist in the Genesis Contest for Women’s Fiction and was awarded an Honorable Mention in the Winter 2012 WOW Flash Fiction Contest. Her newest release, At the Edge of a Dark Forest, is a modern-day re-telling of Beauty and the Beast about a war-vet, amputee struggling with PTSD.
You can find Connie on the web, writing book reviews for Jesus Freak Hideout, and hosting the following blogs: InfiniteCharacters.com and, LivingtheBodyofChrist.Blogspot.com.
You can also meet her on the following social media outlets: Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest
Let’s talk about this! In what ways does your spouse help you slay dragons? Pause and list them all right now, then thank God for them. It’s easy to lose sight of the heroics in the busyness of life, but they’re there. Let’s take notice! And let’s attempt to respond in kind. 🙂 (using both meanings of the word.)
We all want our spouses to be heros and heroines, but do we also want to be heroic–in our love, encouragement, words, our servanthood, our persaverance, and our commitment to Christ? Because we have no control or say in how our spouses respond. God’s assumed full responsibility for them and their behavior. But we are responsible for our responses–for being our spouse’s helpmate, encourager, and cheerleader. The question is, how are we doing? What are some things you do, each day, to honor the hero in your spouse?
Some ways to show your appreciation:
1) Tuck a note in his/her lunch or jacket pocket telling him/her what you love most about him/her
2) Send him/her a link to a sappy song, telling him/her it made you think of him/her
3) Buy a card for them and actually send it to them in the mail!
4) Engage in an activity they love (with them, of course!)
5) Buy them their favorite treat and let them know you bought it just for them
6) Send them random texts letting them know you were thinking of them
7) Ask them how you can pray for them then commit to doing that.
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Jennifer, you are so right about the burps and hiccups, and might I add, balled up socks next to the easy chair. I wonder if Prince Charming left his hose on the floor :o). It does take a surrendering to Christ to really love and appreciate people in our lives, because that’s when we understand what He paid for our sins. Easier to look past the socks to the gifts when we realize all He looks past in us.
Oh, that made me laugh! Those silly old socks! 🙂 As did the reminder that men once wore hose! And wow, you are so right. Viewing ourselves, sins, and all and remembering God’s love and forgiveness for us, is a great way to stay humble and gracious!
Thank you so much for sharing such a heart-stirring post with me and my readers! 🙂
I Love the post. Such a sweet reminder to thank and appreciate those closest to us, our husbands. I know that I have fallen short in this area. Thank you!
Tanya, I think we all have fallen short in this area (and likely *every* other area of life)! That’s what’s so awesome about grace! 🙂 But it’s cool to recognize the room we have to grow and to get excited about moving forward. 🙂
Oh please don’t think I’m the icon of doing it right. When I wrote the words above, I’d realized it had been a while since I truly thanked him. We need to remind ourselves regularly.
Love your example, and you’re so right. Our husbands are definitely willing to be heroes for us–often in ways we don’t appreciate.
Amen. Thank for stopping by, Heather :o)!
I never realized that I am also married to a Dragon Slayer. What wonderful insight into the opposite (puzzling at times) gender. I can look back and see how Todd slayed so many dragons and many times I may not have noticed. Really good food for thought…
I loved the perspective encouraged by Connie’s post as well, Mary! What a blessing our husbands are! 🙂
Yes they are!
I love that. “puzzling at times.” Yes, they are. As we are to them. And yet that is exactly the part God gave them to complete the whole–the two become one.
Connie, I love that! It’s easy for me to forget our differences are actually God’s gifts to each of us! 🙂 Thanks again for the wise and thought-provoking words.
I agree and loved your insight! I know that although my husband and I are practically polar opposites, that is what makes our relationship thrive. I am the dreamer and can be like a kite that needs a steady hand to pull me back to earth while he needs an encourager supporting him and believing in him. Works well for us. God is awesome like that!
Love this, Jennifer and Connie!
Thanks for your encouraging words!
You want to hear something funny? I saw this on Voni Harris’ F.B. wall and when I read he title, I was thrilled to see someone speaking my thoughts. Then I saw Jennifer Slattery. Surprise!
Eye to eye in so many ways, my friend!
Hahaha! Love connecting with you here, sweet lady!
Thanks for stopping by :o)!