You Gotta Fight

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Love, deep, growing, intimate love doesn’t just happen. You’ve gotta fight for it with everything you’ve got. Every day. Because every day, there are countless things pulling you and your spouse apart: busyness, job stress, the chaos of raising a family… the selfishness we’re all consumed with.

Yesterday morning I shared our battle story at an Art of Marriage conference. My husband thought it would help and encourage others if I shared it here, so he video taped me. The lighting’s not the best, and I sound a bit… winey and perhaps a little… writerly. 😉 But hopefully you can look past all the technical issues and glean from the message.


  1. You’ve captured the challenges in a marriage with your usual transparency, humility and wisdom. “There is no loneliness so haunting as to live with a stranger who was once your best friend.” You did a great job, Jennifer, I was drawn into your world as easily as I am when I read your stories. Wonderful to hear how God transformed your marriage through brokenness, pain and fighting for your marriage. There is no “divorce” in a Christian marriage. 🙂

  2. You don’t sound whiny at all Jennifer. You sound passionate, compassionate and forever committed to your marriage. Thanks for sharing this with us!

      1. I need you to be an encourager for me. I’ve been diagnosed with ALS and I’m growing weaker every day. Please include me in your prayers…it’s a scary journey

        Now for some good news…my granddaughter adjusted beautifully to her move this summer to her new home and school district. We were all worried, and we praise Him for a smooth and happy transition. Just like you, the anticipation of it all was worse than the reality!

      2. Oh, Audrey, I’m so sorry. I cannot imagine how difficult that must be and all the emotions that must go along with it. I follow a blog written by someone with ALS, if you’d like me to share the URL with you. And I certainly will be in prayer.

        I’m so glad your granddaughter is doing well! I had wondered how she was doing. 🙂 Praise God for His tender care!

  3. Thank you thank you thank you!!!! That is a beautiful and inspiring story. Thank you for sharing!!!

    Maggie Sent from my iPhone


    1. Thanks, Maggie! I’m so glad you found our testimony inspiring. I like to remember it and all that has happened after. Doing so reminds me we can endure anything, so long as we stay and choose to fight. 🙂 Blessings to you, my friend!

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