Merging two people with different personalities, ideas, thoughts … and sins … can make marriage hard. Today, my guest, Karen Pashley, shares with us the hope and foundation we have in God to make our marriages not just work, but thrive.
The Trials and Triumphs of a God-Centered Marriage
by Karen Pashley
Let’s face it, being married is not easy.
Pair up two individuals with different personalities, energy levels and tastes, ask them to manage a household, children, social commitments, and their careers on a daily basis and you have a recipe for friction.
Throw in the fact that we are sinners—and at times our sin will hurt, disappoint and anger our spouses.
Small irritations, like hogging the remote or continually leaving wet towels on the bed are not so hard to overcome.
But what about the biggies? What if your spouse has an affair? Struggles with an addiction? Or develops a nasty temper? That’s when the vows you declared on your wedding day actually become your reality.
To love, honor, and cherish. Through good times and bad, For richer or poorer, in sickness and health.
Without the grace and mercy of Christ, marriage doesn’t seem like a logical idea at all, does it?
Falling in love is the easy part. Loving our spouses for a lifetime takes commitment, determination, and disciplining our minds to trust in God.
1 John 4:19 says, “We love because He first loved us.”
Conjuring up love when our souls are weary, or stressed, or hurting is virtually impossible without the love of Christ flowing through us.
God designed man and woman to be uniquely and wonderfully different, yet He planned for us to come together and become partners in marriage. He knew this would not be an easy task for us—His first couple blew it big time, yielding to the sin that so easily ensnares.
We’ve been blowing it ever since.
But, the Lord is good, and kind and merciful. He did not haphazardly concoct this scheme called marriage and then leave us to our own feeble means to make it work.
Jesus gave us the gift of His Holy Spirit so that we could experience His perfect love for us (1 John 4:13). And when we embrace that unfathomable Love—despite our frailties, shortcomings, and sins—we can love our spouses, in spite of their frailties, shortcomings, and sins.
What a wonderful, thoughtful God he is! He has equipped us to receive and give love to one another through His own Spirit!
We can love our spouses in and through anything, if we embrace the love our Father has for us.
I like the way the Bible spells it out for us in 1 John 4:10-12:
This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.
My new novel explores how a Christian family deals with the consequences of the husband’s infidelity. Each character wrestles with their own flaws while searching for the answers to their pain. Only when they yield to the love God has for them can they begin the journey towards forgiveness, healing and reconciliation.
Readers and reviewers often contact me to share how this story profoundly affected them and their approach towards situations needing healing and forgiveness in their own lives. I hope you’ll consider reading—may your soul be refreshed with the living water of Jesus’ love.
Precious in His Sight:
The story of one determined wife, her guilt-ridden husband, and the other woman, whose struggle may set them all free . . .
What if your husband was cheating? What would you do?
Feisty, tenacious, and adorably flawed, Sugar Brennan is fiercely committed to her family, her traditional Christian values, and her spotless reputation in her affluent Southern community. When she discovers her husband Clay has been unfaithful, Sugar is determined to right the wrongs in her life.
Then Clay’s former mistress returns to Westfield with devastating news, posing a heart-wrenching dilemma that challenges Sugar to rethink all she’s believed about faith, family, and the healing power of forgiveness.
She’s been raised in a preacher’s home, taught to love her enemies.
She’s got the fish sticker on her car and a collection of good works under her belt.
But . . . reach out to the woman who nearly destroyed her marriage? Surely God wouldn’t ask her to go that far.
“This book will stir your emotions, warm your heart, and ignite a longing in your spirit to know the One who loves us unconditionally . . . no matter who we are or what we’ve done.” —Denise Jackson, NYT bestselling author and wife of country music superstar Alan Jackson
Karen Pashley writes and speaks with wit and candor about relevant, often gut-wrenching topics that resonate with women of all ages. Her Amazon best selling novel Precious in His Sight is hailed as “a story of betrayal, heartbreak, and reconciliation with unrelenting themes of grace, forgiveness, and Christian duty” by Publishers Weekly. Karen lives with her husband and youngest daughter in Nashville, Tennessee, where they enjoy the rich culture, glorious landscapes, and the occasional celebrity sighting. Read more at http://www.karenpashley.com
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Let’s talk about this: Loving our spouse is an ongoing, deliberate choice we make, but it’s only possible because of 1 John 4:19: “We love because He first loved us.” How do you show and act out your love for others? How have others shown you love? Share your thoughts, ideas, and encouragement in the comments below or over on Living by Grace.